This post is to all you badass caregivers out there, the ones who had a tough choice to make. You know who you are, wives, husbands, partners, family, and friends. Although we haven’t met, we know each other well.

I know what you’re feeling. My husband and I are also dealing with a devastating event that changed our lives. While competing in a motocross race in 1990, Frank was in an accident. He suffered a broken neck that left him a quadriplegic, paralyzed from the chest down. Frank was a strong, independent, athletic thirty-one-year-old man before his spinal cord injury. It was a freak accident; he flipped over the handlebars and landed on his head. That split-second in time ended the life we had planned.